Comments on: Reality checks

By: Bluebelle

Bluebelle — Thu, 27 Feb 2014 12:44:50 +0000

Well hello – finally. So glad to have you back on a blog. As you know I’m not on facebook and have been missing Neeham “doings” so much.

Thanks Heather. My but Zoey has grown up! Birthday just around the corner……

Bluebelle

By: Elizabeth Aquino

Elizabeth Aquino — Sat, 22 Feb 2014 08:00:47 +0000

Just so you know, I dragged Sophie to Hilton Head from Los Angeles every year for more than ten years, a week of hell that did much to build an incredible amount or resentment toward my family (both immediate and otherwise) and agony in myself. When I finally decided to stop doing it, I was free. I wish that I’d done it far sooner. I know, too, that Sally never traveled with Maggie for much the same reasons. It sucks, but you do what you have to do. You can more than make up for it when you’re in our vibrant, busy city — short trips rule. I love you, Heather — love your persistence and your profound empathy. It ‘s sustaining.

By: Ken Lilly

Ken Lilly — Wed, 19 Feb 2014 15:59:05 +0000

That’s horrible news to hear. I don’t know the first family you mentioned, and that’s still awful to hear, but I know of the Strongs, and what a sucker-punch…I thought things had been going so well. I will hold out hope that things turn around. Wow, I can’t imagine how petrified I would be.

I don’t think it is a matter of getting over yourself though. I used to have that mentality too. I used to do the Disability Dart Board thing, or whatever analogy I would come up with, the Depth Chart, or whatever, and compare all our tragedies. And then you know what? At the end of the day I decided I had enough guilt of my own to spread on my muffin top so why add MORE by feeling guilty about OTHER people’s kids?

Don’t know if that makes sense, but i just stopped comparing my own situation and other people’s as best as I could. If Bennett breaks off a tooth into a hospital sofa when he is in an uncontrollable rage, how many points does that earn me? If I have a pleasant, event-free evening with him and manage to get him and Carter to go out to eat with no incidents, how many points do I lose that night? See where I am going with that line of thinking?

Oh crap, I’m blogjacking, it’s paragraph 4… BYE!

By: krlr

krlr — Wed, 19 Feb 2014 12:16:12 +0000

I actually had the rare cheerful post in my head that now seems wrong – I just really don’t have the words and they’d seem empty anyway since I was a total stranger to Maggie and her family but it’s a cold, dark morning. xoxo